What if We Dealt with Kim as if it Were a Hostage Situation?

   I wonder if we should take hostage negotiation principles and apply them to the North Korean crisis.
   Step 1: Active Listening. Go to Kim jong un and listen to him. Ask him what he is thinking, and why he feels that way. Make sure he is aware we are listening to him.
   Step 2: Empathy: Express understanding for why Kim feels the way he does. We don't have to agree with him, but we can understand his reasoning.
   Step 3: Rapport: Develop a feeling of trust. Build on steps 1 and 2 to where Kim starts to trust us (or trusts whomever we have sent there to negotiate with him).
   Step 4: Influence: Once the negotiator has developed trust, then start influencing Kim to change, or to go another direction, instead of seeking to nuke the U.S. and other nations. This is the point at which you reason with him, carefully warning him about the consequences.
   Step 5: Behavioral Change: Kim drops his plans for nuking us. This is the goal, anyway.
   It occurs to me that this model adheres to the old adage, "I don't care how much you know, until I know how much you care."

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